Marrison Family Law has provided countless individuals going through a divorce with legal advice and assistance for over a quarter of a century. If you need legal counsel for divorce, spousal support, or other concerns related to family law, please get in touch with them at your convenience.
In the United States, approximately 40% of marriages end in divorce. It is estimated that there are more than 16,000 divorces per week in the US alone, and that the average number of years that couples stay together before divorcing is eight years. This is an astounding statistic. The truly heartbreaking part of divorce is that children are often caught in the middle of it all. It’s hard for children, especially young ones, to understand why mom and dad want to live separately, or why they have to fight over who gets them. With the foundation of the family falling into pieces, the children struggle to find structure again in their lives, and this struggle may cause changes in their behavior.
Arguably, the struggles that children go through after divorce may heavily impact their lives well into adulthood. For some, the pain of seeing their parents separate in divorce stays with them for a long time, and this experience can influence how they view or handle future relationships. They may develop a fear of rejection, abandonment, of being unloved, or a deep sense of being unwanted. All of these, in turn, could make them either shun relationships or struggle to stay in one for the long term.
There are some kids, however—particularly the older ones who grew up in a household where parents constantly fight and argue so much that it has become a common occurrence—who sigh in relief when their parents finally divorce. However, this ‘positive’ acceptance of divorce does not often come without negative effects on the children as well.
In this case, children may begin to see suffering as part of a relationship. Or they may begin to develop misguided ideas on who should be the dominant figure in the relationship. They might take after the dominant parent and ‘enforce’ this same dominance in their own relationships.
In the end, it’s the parents’ responsibility to ensure that their children still have a happy and stable home despite the separation. The parents need to become an even more active participant in their children’s lives. In other words, they have to double their parenting efforts to make sure that their children will still feel loved and nurtured, and that all their needs are met despite having to live with only one parent (or one parent at a time).
At Marrison Family Law, we make sure to discuss with the parent their decision about legally dissolving their marriage. When a client is certain that staying in the marriage is no longer a viable option we likewise make sure that we provide the best legal assistance to make the divorce process as smooth as possible for the sake of the children.